By Dr. Floyd Godfrey

Temperament is a foundational aspect of human identity, intricately woven into how individuals perceive the world, relate to others, and respond to life’s challenges. From a Christian counseling perspective, understanding temperament can deepen self-awareness and foster spiritual growth. Bennett and Bennett (2005) emphasized that “we are each born with a basic temperament, which is the sum of our natural preferences; it shapes our thoughts, ideas, impressions, and the way we tend to react to our environment and to other people” (p. 5). This insight highlights that temperament is not accidental, but part of God’s intentional design for each person.

Recognizing temperament as God-given encourages believers to approach themselves and others with grace. Scripture reminds us that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14), affirming that our natural dispositions have purpose. Some individuals may be more reflective, while others are naturally outgoing. Some are detail-oriented, while others focus on the broader picture. These differences can either create tension or enrich relationships, depending on how well they are understood and stewarded.

At the same time, temperament is not the sole determinant of personality or behavior. Bennett and Bennett (2005) noted that “our personality may begin with a basic temperament, but it is clearly and significantly affected by environment, education, and free choices” (p. 6). This distinction is critical for pastoral care and parenting. While individuals may have natural tendencies, their development is shaped by family dynamics, spiritual formation, and life experiences. This means that growth and transformation are always possible through intentional effort and the work of the Holy Spirit.

In practical terms, this understanding can guide how families and church leaders nurture others. For parents, recognizing a child’s temperament can inform more effective discipline and encouragement strategies. A child who is naturally cautious may need reassurance, while one who is highly energetic may benefit from structured outlets for activity. For pastors and ministry leaders, awareness of temperament differences can improve communication, reduce conflict, and strengthen unity within the body of Christ.

Importantly, temperament does not limit spiritual maturity. Bennett and Bennett (2005) explained, “Because our temperament is something we are born with, rather than something we acquire as a result of our upbringing or our free choices in life, it is something that can never be totally destroyed. But, it can be shaped and molded. Over time we can even learn to act in ways that are contrary to our temperament; to do the opposite of what ‘comes naturally’” (p. 7). This perspective aligns with the biblical call to transformation, as believers are encouraged to grow in Christlikeness, even when it requires acting beyond natural inclinations.

For example, a person who is naturally reserved may learn to engage more openly in fellowship, while someone prone to impatience may cultivate the fruit of the Spirit, particularly patience and kindness. This process is not about denying one’s temperament, but about refining it so that it reflects Christ more fully. Spiritual disciplines such as prayer, Scripture study, and accountability relationships play a key role in this ongoing transformation.

Ultimately, understanding temperament offers a framework for compassion, both toward oneself and others. It reminds believers that differences are not deficiencies, but opportunities for growth and collaboration. When guided by biblical truth and supported by intentional discipleship, individuals can learn to honor their God-given design while continually becoming more like Christ.

Floyd Godfrey PhD is a Board Certified Christian Counselor and has facilitated groups within different churches and denominations over the past 30 years. He worked as a licensed clinician for 23 years and provided supervision and training for other counselors as they worked toward independent licensure. You can read more about Floyd Godfrey PhD at www.FloydGodfrey.com.

References

Bennett, A., & Bennett, L. (2005). The temperament God gave you: The classic key to knowing yourself, getting along with others, and growing closer to the Lord. Sophia Institute Press.