Dr. Floyd Godfrey

Understanding Self-Care in Recovery

Self-care is a foundational element of recovery from pornography addiction. As Patrick Carnes explains, “Neglect is a common problem in the history of sex addicts” (Carnes, 2015, p. 169). Many individuals caught in the cycle of addiction have ignored their physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being, leading to a profound sense of depletion. Recovery necessitates a complete shift in priorities, placing self-care at the forefront.

Self-care involves establishing routines that maintain health and stability. Carnes describes this as doing “the regular things that maintain your health, including flossing when you brush your teeth. You consistently exercise. You avoid depletion” (2015, p. 170). These practical habits are essential in helping individuals rebuild their lives on a foundation of discipline and intention.

For Christians, self-care also encompasses spiritual health. This involves regular prayer, Bible study, and fellowship with other believers. Engaging in spiritual practices reminds individuals of their worth in God’s eyes and connects them to His sustaining grace.

Spiritual Self-Care: Connecting with God

The spiritual dimension of self-care is vital in addiction recovery. The Bible calls believers to cast their cares upon God, for He cares deeply for them (1 Peter 5:7). In moments of struggle, connecting with God through prayer and meditation can provide the strength and clarity needed to resist temptation and pursue healing.

Addiction often isolates individuals from their faith communities and creates a sense of shame. However, recovery is an opportunity to reestablish a relationship with God, who offers unconditional love and forgiveness. Spiritual self-care includes practices such as journaling prayers, seeking guidance through Scripture, and attending worship services. These activities ground individuals in their identity as children of God and reinforce their commitment to recovery.

Building a Support Network

In addition to personal self-care practices, a support network is indispensable. Carnes notes, “You let your friends do kind things for you. You figure out nice things to do for yourself” (2015, p. 170). Relationships built on trust and accountability are essential for sustaining sobriety. This includes working with a sponsor, attending support meetings, and allowing loved ones to provide encouragement.

The Bible emphasizes the importance of community: “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up” (1 Thessalonians 5:11). By surrounding themselves with a Christ-centered community, individuals can draw on collective strength and wisdom during difficult times.

Taking Recovery Seriously

Carnes also emphasizes the importance of commitment: “You take your recovery very seriously, let your sponsor help you, and go to meetings. Neither neglect nor entitlement works in sobriety” (2015, p. 170). Successful recovery requires consistent effort, humility, and a willingness to accept guidance. By dedicating themselves fully to the recovery process, individuals honor both their journey and God’s transformative power.

Conclusion

Self-care is not an indulgence but a necessary part of healing from pornography addiction. Integrating physical, emotional, and spiritual practices empowers individuals to rebuild their lives and strengthens their connection to God. As they prioritize self-care and engage with their community, they can experience the freedom and restoration promised in Christ.

Floyd Godfrey, PhD is a Board Certified Christian Counselor and has facilitated groups within different churches and denominations over the past 30 years. He worked as a licensed counselor for 23 years and provided supervision and training for other counselors as they worked toward independent licensure. You can read more about Floyd Godfrey, PhD at www.FloydGodfrey.com.

Reference
Carnes, P. (2015). Facing the shadow: Starting sexual and relationship recovery (3rd ed.). Gentle Path Press.