Dr. Floyd Godfrey

In a digital age where explicit content is more accessible than ever, it is crucial for parents to educate their sons about the dangers of pornography. The pervasive nature of obscenity in our culture poses a significant threat to the moral and spiritual development of young men. As Christian parents, it is our responsibility to shield our sons from these dangers and equip them with the knowledge and values necessary to resist temptation and maintain purity.

The Pervasive Threat of Pornography

Pornography today is not only more accessible but also more graphic and damaging than ever before. Dr. James Dobson highlights the gravity of this issue when he states, "The kind of obscenity available to teenagers today has the capacity to grab and hold a boy for the rest of his life" (Dobson, 2002, p. 79). This stark reality underscores the need for proactive intervention from parents. The addictive nature of pornography can trap young men in a cycle of sin and shame, leading to long-term spiritual, emotional, and relational consequences.

The availability of pornography on smartphones, tablets, and computers makes it easy for young men to stumble upon or intentionally seek out explicit content. Without proper guidance, they may be drawn into a world that distorts their understanding of sexuality and damages their ability to form healthy, God-honoring relationships in the future.

The Role of Parents in Intervention

Given the seriousness of the threat, parents must take an active role in guiding their sons away from pornography. Dr. Dobson advises, "Parents will want to intervene if there is evidence that their son or daughter is heading down that well-worn path" (Dobson, 2002, p. 79). This intervention should not be delayed or taken lightly. Early detection and response are critical in preventing the long-term consequences associated with exposure to pornography.

Intervention involves more than just restricting access to digital devices; it requires ongoing dialogue and education about the dangers of pornography. Parents should be vigilant, paying attention to changes in behavior, secrecy, or other signs that their son may be struggling with exposure to explicit content. Establishing clear boundaries, setting up accountability systems, and using filtering software can also help protect young men from the temptations that lurk online.

The Importance of Frank and Age-Appropriate Conversations

One of the most effective ways parents can protect their sons from the dangers of pornography is by having frank and age-appropriate conversations. These discussions should be grounded in biblical principles and should emphasize the sanctity of sex as a gift from God, intended for marriage. It is important to start these conversations early and continue them as the child matures, ensuring that they understand the importance of purity and the consequences of pornography.

While it may be uncomfortable for some parents to broach this topic, open communication is essential. By fostering an environment of trust and honesty, parents can encourage their sons to share their struggles and ask questions without fear of judgment. This openness allows parents to provide guidance and support that is tailored to their son's specific needs and challenges.

In addition to discussing the spiritual and moral implications of pornography, parents should also address the psychological and relational impact it can have. Teaching young men about the dangers of objectifying others and the importance of respect in relationships can help them develop a healthier understanding of sexuality.

Conclusion

Teaching young men about the dangers of pornography is a vital responsibility for Christian parents. By understanding the pervasive threat of explicit content, actively intervening when necessary, and engaging in frank and age-appropriate conversations, parents can help their sons navigate these challenges and maintain their commitment to purity. As we equip the next generation with these tools, we are not only protecting their hearts and minds but also setting them on a path that honors God and fosters healthy, fulfilling relationships.

Floyd Godfrey, PhD is a Board Certified Christian Counselor and has facilitated groups within different churches and denominations over the past 30 years. He worked as a licensed counselor for 23 years and provided supervision and training for other counselors as they worked toward independent licensure. You can read more about Floyd Godfrey PhD, at www.FloydGodfrey.com.

References
Dobson, J. (2002). Bringing up boys. Tyndale Press.