Dr. Floyd Godfrey

Using a celibacy period as a tool to reset oneself apart from sexual addiction has proven to be a transformative practice for many seeking recovery. This intentional choice to refrain from sexual activity for a designated period can create the mental, emotional, and spiritual space necessary for healing and self-discovery. While this practice may not be easy, it provides a foundation for breaking free from destructive patterns and rediscovering one’s identity outside of the grips of addiction.

Sex addiction, like any compulsive behavior, often consumes an individual’s thoughts and energy, leaving little room for true connection with God, others, or oneself. For those who feel trapped in this cycle, a celibacy period can be an effective step toward reclaiming a sense of freedom and clarity. As the book Sex Addicts Anonymous (2012) explains, “Some of us have found it useful to choose a period of refraining from all sexual activity as part of our recovery” (p. 70). This period of abstinence allows individuals to disengage from the compulsive behaviors and begin to reframe their relationship with sexuality in a healthier, God-honoring way.

Why a Celibacy Period Can Be So Helpful

A celibacy period acts as a form of “withdrawal,” helping individuals break free from the habitual distractions that sexual addiction creates. By stepping away from sexual activity—both with others and oneself—people can begin to experience life without the constant noise of temptation or guilt. As Sex Addicts Anonymous (2012) notes, “We decide on a length of time in which we will not be sexual with anyone, including ourselves. This allows for a withdrawal period, when we can begin to discover who we are without the familiar distraction of sex” (p. 70).

This withdrawal period is not just about avoiding sexual activity; it is about discovering a deeper sense of identity. By removing the addictive element, individuals can start to explore the roots of their struggles, including unresolved emotional wounds, unmet needs, and unhealthy thought patterns. Without the distraction of compulsive behaviors, there is room for genuine healing, spiritual growth, and a renewed understanding of what it means to be created in God’s image.

Professional Guidance and Accountability

While a celibacy period can be a powerful recovery tool, it is important to approach it with wisdom and support. Sexual addiction can be deeply rooted in emotional, psychological, and spiritual pain, and attempting to navigate the recovery process alone can be overwhelming. Seeking professional help from a licensed counselor or therapist experienced in sexual addiction recovery is a critical step.

A qualified professional can help individuals determine the appropriate length of a celibacy period and address the underlying issues that contribute to the addiction. As Sex Addicts Anonymous (2012) emphasizes, “For most of us, this is a temporary tool we use for our recovery” (p. 70). A professional can also help individuals recognize when and how to reintegrate healthy expressions of sexuality into their lives. Additionally, participating in support groups, such as those offered by Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA), provides a sense of community and accountability during this challenging season.

A Tool for Spiritual Renewal

From a Christian perspective, a celibacy period can be more than just a recovery tool; it can be an act of devotion and spiritual renewal. This time can be used to refocus on God’s design for intimacy and sexuality. By stepping away from addictive behaviors, individuals can seek God in prayer, study His Word, and invite the Holy Spirit to bring healing and transformation. As Romans 12:1-2 (NIV) reminds us, “Offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

Choosing celibacy for a season aligns with the biblical call to present our bodies as instruments of worship. It is a tangible way to surrender one’s struggles to God, trusting Him to provide strength and guidance. This period of abstinence can also create a renewed sense of gratitude for God’s gift of sexuality when it is experienced within the proper boundaries He has established.

Conclusion

In the battle against sexual addiction, a celibacy period can be a vital step toward healing and restoration. It provides the space to withdraw from unhealthy patterns, gain clarity about one’s identity, and reconnect with God’s purposes for life and relationships. With professional guidance, accountability, and a heart devoted to God, this practice can be an empowering tool in the journey to freedom. As you consider this step, remember that you are not alone—God’s grace is sufficient, and there is hope for lasting transformation.

Floyd Godfrey PhD is a Board Certified Christian Counselor and has facilitated groups within different churches and denominations over the past 30 years. He worked as a licensed clinician for 23 years and provided supervision and training for other counselors as they worked toward independent licensure. You can read more about Floyd Godfrey PhD at www.FloydGodfrey.com.

References

Sex Addicts Anonymous. (2012). Sex addicts anonymous. International Service Organization of SAA, Inc.