By Floyd Godfrey, PhD

Pornography is widely available, and for many teenage boys, watching it might seem like a harmless activity. But over time, what begins as curiosity can spiral into something much more controlling. Recognizing when you’re slipping into addiction is essential to reclaiming your mental and emotional freedom. Here’s how to tell if pornography is taking over and what you can do about it.

Ask Yourself These Key Questions
When it comes to pornography, the first step is self-awareness. If you’re worried you might be struggling, ask yourself these questions:

• Do I feel like I can’t stop, even when I want to?
  Many young men find themselves trying to quit watching pornography but repeatedly falling back into it. This cycle of trying and failing is a common sign of addiction.
• Am I watching more often or for longer periods?
  If you find yourself needing to watch more to get the same sense of satisfaction, it could indicate that your brain is building a tolerance, much like it does with other addictive behaviors.
• Is it interfering with my life?
  Think about your schoolwork, friendships, hobbies, and family time. Are you skipping out on activities, lying, or isolating yourself to watch pornography?
• Do I feel guilty or ashamed afterward?
  A strong sense of shame or regret often accompanies pornography addiction. It’s important to notice how it makes you feel once the moment passes.

If these questions resonate with you, it’s time to take action.

The Courage to Talk About It
Acknowledging a problem takes bravery. Many teens struggle in silence, afraid of judgment or rejection if they admit they’re dealing with pornography addiction. However, this secrecy often worsens the problem.

Talking to a trusted adult can be one of the most powerful steps you take. Whether it’s a parent, teacher, coach, or counselor, sharing your concerns opens the door to understanding and support. You don’t have to fight this battle alone. Adults can guide you toward resources, provide encouragement, and help you navigate your next steps.

If starting the conversation feels too hard, consider writing your thoughts in a letter or text to express your feelings. Sometimes, taking that first step in writing makes it easier to follow up in person.

Why It’s Worth Addressing Now
The teenage years are a time of discovery, but they’re also crucial for setting patterns that will follow you into adulthood. Struggling with pornography now can lead to deeper emotional and relational issues later on. Addiction to pornography can interfere with self-esteem, intimacy, and your ability to build healthy relationships.

The good news is that you don’t have to stay trapped. With help and determination, it’s possible to break free and develop healthier habits. Reaching out for guidance, limiting your screen time, and building new interests can all help you regain control.

There’s Hope for Change
Overcoming pornography addiction isn’t easy, but it’s achievable with the right mindset and support. Start by answering the hard questions honestly, seek help from someone you trust, and remind yourself that this is about taking care of your future. The strength and courage you build by facing this challenge will serve you for a lifetime.

Floyd Godfrey, PhD, is a Clinical Sexologist and a Certified Sex Addiction Specialist. He has been guiding clients since 2000 and currently speaks and provides consulting and mental health coaching across the globe. To learn more about Floyd Godfrey, PhD, please visit his website: www.FloydGodfrey.com.

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