Floyd Godfrey, PhDDr. Floyd Godfrey
In today's world, guiding young men in understanding Christian values and sexuality is a crucial task for parents, pastors, and church leaders. As adolescents and young men navigate their formative years, they are constantly bombarded with conflicting messages about relationships and sexuality. It is essential to provide them with a solid foundation based on biblical principles that will help them make wise choices and prepare them for healthy, faithful marriages in the future.
Maintaining Boundaries in Dating
One of the key lessons in teaching young men about Christian values and sexuality is the importance of maintaining appropriate boundaries when dating. The physical progression in a relationship can easily lead to situations that compromise their commitment to purity. As Dr. James Dobson emphasizes, "If guys are determined to remain moral, they must take steps to slow down the physical progression early in the relationship" (Dobson, 2002, p. 77). This advice is not merely about setting arbitrary limits but about honoring God in relationships and protecting one’s heart and mind.
Setting boundaries in dating is a practical expression of love and respect, both for oneself and for the other person. It is important to teach young men that these boundaries are not meant to restrict their freedom but to ensure that their relationships align with God’s design for love and intimacy. Encouraging open conversations about boundaries, accountability, and the consequences of ignoring these principles can equip young men with the tools they need to maintain their commitment to purity.
Faithfulness in Marriage
Another critical aspect of teaching young men about Christian values and sexuality is preparing them for a future where faithfulness is the cornerstone of a healthy marriage. In a society that often trivializes infidelity, it is imperative to reinforce the truth that sexual morality is foundational to a thriving marriage. As Dr. Dobson points out, "Finally, make it clear that sexual morality is not just right and proper; it is one of the keys to a healthy marriage and family life" (Dobson, 2002, p. 77).
Faithfulness in marriage is not just about physical fidelity; it encompasses emotional and spiritual commitment as well. Young men must understand that a strong marriage is built on trust, mutual respect, and a shared commitment to living out Christian values. This commitment is a reflection of the covenant relationship between Christ and His Church, and it requires ongoing effort and dedication.
A Biblical Foundation for Sexuality
At the heart of these teachings is the need to ground young men in a biblical understanding of sexuality. The Bible is clear that sex is a gift from God, designed to be enjoyed within the bounds of marriage between a man and a woman (Hebrews 13:4). This perspective is increasingly countercultural, yet it offers the most fulfilling and God-honoring way to approach relationships.
By instilling these values early on, we help young men see the bigger picture of God's design for their lives. They learn that their decisions about sexuality are not just personal choices but acts of worship that honor God and prepare them for the lifelong commitment of marriage.
Conclusion
Teaching young men about Christian values and sexuality is an essential responsibility for those who guide the next generation. By emphasizing the importance of boundaries in dating and the significance of faithfulness in marriage, we can help them build strong, godly relationships that reflect Christ’s love. As we impart these lessons, let us remember that sexual morality is not only right and proper but also a key to a healthy and fulfilling marriage.
Floyd Godfrey, PhD is a Board Certified Christian Counselor and has facilitated groups within different churches and denominations over the past 30 years. He worked as a licensed counselor for 23 years and provided supervision and training for other counselors as they worked toward independent licensure. You can read more about Floyd Godfrey, PhD at www.FloydGodfrey.com.
References
Dobson, J. (2002). Bringing up boys. Tyndale Press.
