By Dr. Floyd Godfrey

Loneliness and depression among young men in college have become increasingly prevalent, exacerbated by academic pressure, social expectations, and the challenges of transitioning into adulthood. Research indicates that young men often struggle to express emotions due to societal norms that encourage self-reliance and emotional suppression (Seidler et al., 2016). Without adequate emotional outlets, feelings of isolation can worsen, leading to depression, anxiety, and even suicidal ideation. Addressing these issues requires a combination of emotional education, community engagement, and professional intervention.

Understanding the Root Causes
Several factors contribute to loneliness and depression in college-aged men. Many young men experience a loss of familiar social structures after high school, struggling to form meaningful connections in a new environment. Additionally, societal expectations often discourage vulnerability, leading men to suppress emotional struggles rather than seek help (Mahalik et al., 2018). Digital communication, while pervasive, can further compound loneliness by replacing face-to-face interactions with superficial online exchanges. A lack of emotional awareness and coping strategies can lead to unhealthy behaviors such as substance use, excessive gaming, or avoidance of social situations.

The Role of Social Connections
Building a strong social network is essential for combating loneliness and fostering emotional well-being. Research highlights the significance of peer support in reducing feelings of isolation (Hefner & Eisenberg, 2009). Encouraging young men to participate in student organizations, sports teams, or study groups can provide natural opportunities for connection. Colleges can also implement mentorship programs that pair upperclassmen with new students, helping them navigate the transition into college life. Additionally, promoting open conversations about mental health within these social groups can reduce stigma and encourage help-seeking behaviors.

Developing Emotional Intelligence
One critical aspect of addressing loneliness and depression is improving emotional intelligence (EI). EI involves recognizing, understanding, and managing emotions effectively, which can improve resilience and social interactions. Studies show that higher EI is linked to lower levels of depression and better psychological well-being (Schutte et al., 2007). Colleges can integrate EI training into orientation programs or offer workshops that teach emotional regulation, communication skills, and stress management. Encouraging journaling, mindfulness practices, and self-reflection can also help young men develop greater emotional awareness and self-compassion.

The Importance of Professional Support
While peer connections and emotional education are valuable, professional support is often necessary for those experiencing severe loneliness or depression. Many young men hesitate to seek therapy due to stigma or the belief that they should “handle things on their own” (Lindinger-Sternart, 2015). Colleges should actively promote mental health resources, emphasizing that seeking help is a sign of strength rather than weakness. Campus counseling centers can offer tailored support groups for men struggling with loneliness, providing a space where they feel understood and supported. Additionally, online therapy platforms and crisis helplines can serve as accessible alternatives for those hesitant to visit in-person services.

Encouragement for Change
Overcoming loneliness and depression is a journey that requires self-awareness, social engagement, and professional support when needed. By challenging societal norms that discourage emotional expression, young men can foster healthier relationships and develop resilience in the face of life’s challenges. Colleges, communities, and mental health professionals must work together to create supportive environments where young men feel safe to connect, share, and seek help. With the right strategies, young men in college can cultivate meaningful relationships and a greater sense of well-being.

Floyd Godfrey PhD is a Certified Mental Health Coach and has been guiding clients since 2000. He currently speaks and provides consulting and mental health coaching across the globe. To learn more about his services please visit his website: www.FloydGodfrey.com.

References
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Lindinger-Sternart, S. (2015). Help-seeking behaviors of men for mental health and the impact of diverse cultural backgrounds. International Journal of Social Science Studies, 3(1), 1–6. https://doi.org/10.11114/ijsss.v3i1.519

Mahalik, J. R., Burns, S. M., & Syzdek, M. (2007). Masculinity and perceived normative health behaviors as predictors of men's health behaviors. Social Science & Medicine, 64(11), 2201-2209. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.socscimed.2007.02.035

Schutte, N. S., Malouff, J. M., Simunek, M., McKenley, J., & Hollander, S. (2002). Characteristic emotional intelligence and emotional well-being. Cognition and Emotion, 16(6), 769–785. https://doi.org/10.1080/02699930143000482

Seidler, Z. E., Dawes, A. J., Rice, S. M., Oliffe, J. L., & Dhillon, H. M. (2016). The role of masculinity in men’s help-seeking for depression: A systematic review. Clinical Psychology Review, 49, 106-118. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2016.09.002