Dr. Floyd Godfrey

God created men to stand firm in challenges, to persevere, and to grow stronger through the trials of life. But as much as men are called to endure, they are not meant to do so alone. Scripture reminds us, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another” (Proverbs 27:17, ESV). This biblical truth underscores the importance of men building one another up in strength and encouragement.

David Dusek, in his book Rough Cut Men: A Man’s Battle Guide to Building Real Relationships With Each Other, and With Jesus, paints a vivid picture of how men can fulfill this divine calling. He writes, “God wants us to use our survival skills to aid other men” (Dusek, 2015, p. 36). Men are equipped with unique gifts and experiences not only for personal growth but also for the benefit of others. The very trials God leads you through are often meant to become testimonies and tools to help a brother in need.

Grab a Rope

Dusek encourages men to step into each other’s struggles with empathy and action: “Grab a rope, lash it to a man who's going through the exact same thing God brought you through, and lead him to safety” (Dusek, 2015, p. 36). This powerful imagery speaks to the heart of discipleship and mentorship. When you reflect on your own challenges, can you see how God prepared you to serve others?

Whether it’s overcoming addiction, navigating the pain of divorce, or enduring financial hardship, your story is a resource. The world often teaches self-reliance, but the Gospel teaches interdependence in the body of Christ. Jesus Himself modeled this by walking alongside His disciples, guiding them, and teaching them how to live out God’s purposes.

Men Supporting Men

Life’s challenges can feel overwhelming, leaving some men paralyzed by despair. Dusek captures this poignantly: “Men need other men for support when a situation seems more than hopeless. We desperately need someone to drag us out of the jungle after we have had our legs blown off by the landmines of life” (Dusek, 2015, pp. 36-37).

The imagery of being dragged out of the jungle is raw and sobering, but it reflects reality. Everyone faces “landmines” in life—moments when circumstances threaten to destroy faith, hope, or purpose. These are the times when brotherly support is not just helpful but essential. God often uses relationships to bring healing and restoration. In James 5:16, we are told, “Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” This verse highlights vulnerability and the power of communal prayer, showing that God works through human connections to accomplish His will.

Encouragement for the Journey

Men, as you think about how to support one another, consider how Jesus supports you. His love, patience, and guidance provide the ultimate example. Lean into prayer and ask God to reveal the men in your life who need a “rope.” Then, take action. Whether it’s joining a small group, mentoring a younger man, or simply offering a listening ear, your role in another’s life can make an eternal difference.

Finally, let us remember Hebrews 10:24-25: “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.” Together, as men, we can stand stronger, united in God’s purpose and love.

Floyd Godfrey PhD is a Board Certified Christian Counselor and has facilitated groups within different churches and denominations over the past 30 years. He worked as a licensed counselor for 23 years and provided supervision and training for other counselors as they worked toward independent licensure. You can read more about Floyd Godfrey PhD at www.FloydGodfrey.com.