Floyd Godfrey, PhD

In today's rapidly shifting cultural landscape, the necessity for parents to engage thoughtfully with their children about sex from a Christian perspective has never been more critical. As society increasingly moves away from traditional Christian values, parents face the challenging task of conveying God’s design for sexuality to their children in a way that is both clear and compassionate.

Conveying Parental Standards without Shame

It is paramount for parents to communicate their Christian values regarding sexuality without instilling shame. Ephesians 4:15 instructs us to "speak the truth in love," a guideline that is especially pertinent in these discussions. By framing the conversation within the context of love and respect for God’s creation, parents can establish a healthy understanding of sexual morality that encourages purity without negative connotations.

Addressing Curiosity in a Healthy Way

Curiosity about sex is a natural part of growing up. Proverbs 22:6 teaches us to "start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it." Parents should welcome questions their children might have about sex and respond with honesty, ensuring their explanations are age-appropriate and grounded in Christian beliefs. This approach not only educates but also reinforces trust and openness between parents and children.

Keeping the Door Open

One of the most effective ways to ensure children feel comfortable coming to their parents with questions in the future is to leave the proverbial door open. This can be achieved by regularly inviting your child to talk, showing readiness to listen, and by not overreacting to the questions they pose. Demonstrating consistent availability and non-judgmental support creates an environment where children know their feelings and curiosities are respected and valued.

The Importance in Today's Society

In a world where the media and peer influences often present distorted and unhealthy views of sexuality, Christian parents have a pivotal role in guiding their children towards God's truths about human sexuality. Establishing a dialogue that is open and ongoing allows parents to help their children navigate these influences effectively, aligning their curiosity with biblical values.

Encouragement

To all parents striving to undertake this vital conversation, take heart in knowing that your efforts are building a foundation of truth and love in your child’s life. Remember, you are not alone in this journey—God is with you, providing wisdom and strength. Lean on Him and the community He has given you within the church. Additionally, have courage to seek support from other parents who are also learning to navigate these issues.

Floyd Godfrey, PhD, is a Board Certified Christian Counselor and a Clinical Sexologist. He has facilitated groups within different churches and denominations over the past 30 years. He worked as a licensed counselor for 23 years. You can read more about Floyd Godfrey, PhD at www.FloydGodfrey.com.